God Winks and Good Friends: When the Responsible Choice Isn’t the Right One
A little background, first:
Jeff starts chemo again (for the third time) Monday, March 16. When we found this out, I said, "We should figure out a way to take some kind of spring break trip." Jeff handles chemo and tough treatments better when he has something to look forward to, so I always plan a goal trip for us---even if it's just an inexpensive trip to see family out of town or a one-day "road trip" close to home.
Our son Scotty is 15. He plays for West High School and had the second best score, as a freshman, for the year. His goal is to play in college and professionally. My goal is for him to play in college and professionally AND buy me a condo on the beach with some of his winnings $$$. Hahahaha!
Anyway, he lives and breathes golf. As you might imagine, the last 29 months have been hard on Scotty. Middle school is rough enough, right? Add a father with stage 4 cancer and a brother away at college, and you can see why he's been struggling not only with schoolwork but also trichotillomania (anxiety disorder---under treatment, but tough on a teenager).
Scotty needed a win. At home, February was COLD. Jeff needed warm temperatures to get some reprieve from the neuropathy and pain in his feet and hands.
Now, ON PAPER and by "the world's" standards, we have no business taking a spring break trip. We have a gazillion dollars in medical bills with no end in sight, I am about to be back in deep caregiver mode (which means losing or shifting many work hours), Jeff hates taking time off work because he misses so much for bad days and treatments, and since Crippled Beagle Publishing and Story Mountain Media are in a rapid growth stage, I feel I should be at the helm 24/7. Plus, Scotty "should" be doing makeup assignments and working with his tutor, right?
But by God's standards, a break makes total sense. Here's why:
God never designed us to run at full speed without rest, joy, and connection. Throughout the Bible, He calls people to pause, step away, and trust Him with the details. When life feels uncertain, my instinct is often to work harder and try to control everything. I have learned that faith often requires the opposite.
Faith sometimes looks like saying yes when the world says to say no.
Faith sometimes looks like creating a joyful memory in spite of or smack dab in the middle of another hard season.
One of my greatest fears is letting people down and losing their trust. Faith means that choosing what is good for my family is still the right decision, even if it disappoints someone else.
Jeff faces two months of chemo starting Monday. Scotty needed sunshine, golf, and a few days where cancer is not the center of the conversation. And honestly, I needed a reminder that life is still good and still worth celebrating.
God is always working behind the scenes, and I am frequently in awe of how He manages the details of life, if I let Him. If I get out of the way!
As a Christian, I fully believe in the law of attraction and manifesting. I also believe that God loves risk takers. As my friend Gavin McHale says, "God loves risk takers because risk requires faith." Now, for this March week, I didn't book a trip or even Google vacation rentals. Frazzled and being “responsible,” I just kept taking care of work and home and family. I definitely THOUGHT about spring break, what we could do on a budget, what would help Jeff, and how we can land as close as possible to a golf course. That is all I did, though—think. Finally, my plan was to drop Scotty and his best friend Paxton off at local golf courses every day, have lunch with Jeff a couple of times, and get ahead on work to be ready for chemo and caregiving. God, of course, knew better.
On February 26, Jeff and I got this text at 7:18 a.m. from our friend Kathy:
Good morning Jody and Jeff.
Y'all have been on my heart.
I know Jeff will be starting treatment soon.
I'm not sure when Scotty’s spring break is, but I wanted to offer our house in Orange Beach to y'all.
It's not fancy…but it would be a place to stay. All you would need to bring are golf clubs and groceries.
It is on the Orange Beach Golf Course and only miles away from the beach.
If you feel like a beach trip let me know, and the little house is yours.
On our first day here, Scotty played 36 holes. He stayed at the golf course from 8 a.m. until the only thing left open was the driving range. The next day, the same. Right now, on day three? He and Jeff are playing golf in the sunshine.
I love "learning in public" and sharing with you all.
Thank you, Kathy, for answering a prayer for Scotty, Jeff, and me.
Thank you, God, for redirecting me and for bringing joy to my family this week.
If you are in a season where life feels uncertain or heavy, maybe this message is a small reminder that it is still okay to pause, trust God with the details, and say yes to joy along the way.
Sometimes the most faithful thing we can do is step away for a moment, rest, and remember that God is working behind the scenes.
Thank you for your patience this week, and thank you for trusting your team and me with your creative work.
XOXOXO from Orange Beach, Alabama!
Jody
March 9, 2026
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